Ngjoko
Megaman, not Rockman!!!
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RE: Life Issues
well, how about you try to make friends initially? Maybe it's the way you dressed, i dunno. Maybe you don't look outstanding enough, or too outstanding that people get awkward getting near you...
Sports is different. The team can work better if the teammates had already synchronized themselves. Studies is more of a private project i guess. They don't have to make good connections to exceed well.
I think I'm finally going "home", renewal is fun, but there is really nothing like "heRO"...
Kyarorain, Shield Crusader
Erizabeth, Battle Sage
Derpette, Int Brewer
Katerine, Battle Acolyte
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01-12-2011, 08:53 PM |
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The Legendary Joe
Raging Alt-a-holic
Posts: 3,691
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Joined: Mar 2007
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RE: Life Issues
Perhaps that class doesn't have the right social chemistry for you. I mean, If you don't happen to have anything in common with the people in the class aside from being IN the class, it's gonna be hard to find something to talk about.
I mean,??you try to start something but it comes out awkward and either someone finds it offensive or they just don't care enough to laugh.??Or maybe the type of humor is misplaced. You wouldn't Make "Yo Mamma so fat" jokes at your Best friend's mom's funeral.
If they're men, they might be overly homophobic. If they're women, they might feel that you're trying to hit on them and are uncomfortable with that. Or maybe (17 seems a little young for college, I got out of High school at 18 =x) they see you as a little kid and rather not associate with you, because they're afraid you might ask too many obvious questions that have already been answered??or that they don't know the answer to.
Or maybe they're all cultists who hate everyone and plot to take over the world. Who knows. I'd need more info (on both you and them) before I can point out the actual Faults and come up with a suggestion =x.
But at the very least, you're at college and not a public school. that means most everyone who is there is there by choice, and not because federal law demands it. There aren't as many Immature assholes there to spoil your learning experience.
Overall, all you can do is be yourself.If you try to be something you're not to gain favor with a crowd, you still won't be happy.
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01-12-2011, 10:41 PM |
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Hiroishime
Senior Member
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Joined: Dec 2009
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RE: Life Issues
do you always seems so lonely-sad faces-emo-everyone hated me-mood?
you can't expect everyone to like you the way you are, if that is what you are expecting. Learn new things, enlarge your horizon, changing informations is how you starts to socialize.
More things you know = more conversations, less awkward silence.
Also dont be picky when it comes to making friends, just make as many as you could now, doesnt have to be a very good friend, but enough to let them remembers your name when you meet them in the near future.
You need all those connections in the future for your career and broaden your network, who knew if the jerk that used to bully you will be your boss? Steve Jobs was a bully, still is a jerk and now who is he?
^____________________________^ /derp
(This post was last modified: 01-12-2011, 11:24 PM by Hiroishime.)
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01-12-2011, 11:13 PM |
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