Homunculus Help

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Hello, I am new, and I don't know where this should go, so please spare me if I did this wrong.

Since I am new I am thinking of which character I am going with, and leaning towards Alchemist that uses Homunculus.

I am tore bewteen Amistr and Frilir
AAlso what builds

I have been reading up on the class, guides and stuff
and I was thinking of going either these two ways

Amistr
Str/Agi minor Dex
So the monster attacks Ami, while he keeps them occupied while you deal the main dammage. I am worried, because would this give Ami the exp, because I am doing most of the damage and he is just doing the finishing attacks?

Frilir
Agi/Vit minor Dex
Frilir attacks the monster while it attacks me. I would rarely get damage, leveling would be hell till alchemist, but I can tough it. I am conserned if this works. Because would the monster even attack me? Or focus on Fril?

So I need help deciding which pet I should go with when I start on the server.
Also any other help could be greatfull.

Thanks for the help, and I had no clue where else to post this =]
oops realised this should go in guide =[
Move please?