long distance relations

[AllusiveMaid]

There are many things to consider but the biggest one you have to think of is a. is this a person i think i could spend the rest of my life with and b. are they worth it. I know that sounds kinda harsh but you have to think people who are old enough to have long distance realtionships are generally looking for "the one" they are going to marry sometime. If this is the case then you want to make sure this person is worth the missing eachother like mad, phone calls to say good night instead of a kiss, video confrencing instead of time together.

some of the down sides : well i just listed some, you dont get to see eachother often, it can put a strain on your other friendships, it can hurt the pocketbook, you are more prone to depression, you may make the realtionship move alot faster bc you dont see eachother often, you can never be sure if the other is being truthful if you susupect they are cheating.

upsides: you will cherish your time together more, it may seem like an eternity before you see eachother again BUT BUT BUT . . . this is just a small fragment of the rest of your lives togthter, you will grow a stronger bond because you cherish eachother more, you will get to see what it is like to be "married" to the other person because your time together will be exclusive to w/e town one or the other lives in, if you break you you dont have to worry about running into them

Things to remember, and i'll say it again, if this works out, its just a short fragment of time apart compaired to the rest of your life, dont let a relationship with someone cause you to ignore your friends b/c you spend every free moment you have visiting that person, NEVER be the one doing all the travelling (if you are at college its a little different b/c then you tend to see the person when you come home to see your rents for the w/e and holidays), be honest to your heart!!!

I have had several LD realtionships in the past and the one problem i had is the relationship can fall weak when the one person "gives up" or does not have the drive that you do to keep it going, i had that problem when i was engaged to a guy and he just forgot why he loved me, it was painful but i got over it.

So yea, its just all about following your heart, doing what is right for YOU and remembering the time apart now is just tempoary.